Most couples spend most of their pregnancy picking out the perfect name for their baby. They go through their family history, the common baby name lists, or even pull inspiration from Hollywood or the sports world. It is a big decision, because this is a name that their child is going to carry with them for the rest of their lives.
This means that it is something that needs to be taken very seriously. However, what happens when the day comes, the baby is born and as time goes on, mom and dad decide that they really don’t like the name they gave the baby?
While this may not happen commonly, it does happen. It recently happened with Kylie Jenner, who announced that she was changing the name of her son because she had changed her mind.
There may be some parents out there who feel like when a baby is born, and named, that there is no going back, but name changes are possible, but there is so much more than going into the decision, and parents may not be nervous that they won’t like any name. It can become a much bigger problem than just some paperwork to fill out.
One Woman’s Story
The power of the internet and social media is that moms can share their experiences and stories, and it helps to erase the stigma and let other moms know that they are not alone.
According to Today, one mom shared her story about how she had some regret with her child’s name, and that it is very normal. She stated that her doubts about her child’s name started almost immediately, but she said that it wasn’t that she didn’t like the name, it was that she didn’t like it for her child.
This is a common worry, once you meet your baby, you will feel like the name just doesn’t fit. Hearing stories like this is a great way to gain some empathy and understand how moms can feel this way.
If You Don’t Want To Change It
While there is always the option to legally change it, some moms may not want to take that route. Maybe the name has a lot of family history to it, or they just want to stick with what they imagined while pregnant. In these cases, there are some things that mom can do.
According to Baby Center, if mom and dad like their child’s middle name, they could make that their first name. There are a lot of people who go by their middle name instead of their first, and other than letting people know, this is not that difficult to arrange.
Mom can also find a nickname that will work, and that can be the name that her child goes by. For example, the name William can be turned into ‘Will,’ or the name Gertrude can be ‘Trudy.’ Mom may be able to find a nickname that she likes that can work as her child’s first name, and it is another easy change.
The nickname doesn’t even have to be anything related to the first name, and when you are filling out forms for school, or any activity, there is usually a place to fill out what your child prefers to be referred to as.
Find Someone You Trust
The postpartum period can be tough on anyone, and part of the reason why is because of all the hormones that are surging. If mom finds herself doubting her baby’s name right after birth, it could be a momentary doubt, so mom may want to find ways to think about it.
According to Ava Tozeke, it is always a good idea to take a break, take a walk and really put some thought into it. Think about why you came up with the name, what it means to you, and even what you would change it to if you end up going that route. If you have someone you trust, ask them what they think.
Sometimes, we get stuck in our own head, and we convince ourselves of things that are not necessarily true. Sometimes, a trusted friend or family member can help give us a bit of clarity and their input can be important when it comes to our decision.
At the end of the day, your baby’s name is in your control, and if you really don’t like it, you can change it through the government system. While it may seem daunting, and a long process, this is the name you will be calling your child for the rest of your life, and it is important that it is a name that suits them and that you are comfortable with.
There are no rules when it comes to name-changing, and this is not something that anyone should feel judged over.
Sources: Today, Baby Center, Ava Tozeke
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