Maya Vander suffered a devastating stillbirth six months ago.
And now the 40-year-old Selling Sunset actress has told her Instagram followers that she is still healing from the loss, but staying active really helps her cope with the pain.
‘Everyone handles loss in their own way, but for me I find the key is to stay busy,’ the beauty said. ‘A healthy distraction always keeps me going.’
Update: Maya Vander suffered a devastating stillbirth six months ago. And now the 40-year-old Selling Sunset actress has told her Instagram followers that she is still healing from the loss, but staying active really helps her cope with the pain
And she gave suggestions to women who have been through similar tragedies.
Vander said it helps to ‘get to work, socialize with people, get your body moving (endorphins) and talk to someone’ if one is suffering from grief.
And she said it will just take time to recover,
‘From my own experiences, I know the pain of loss won’t heal overnight, but today is a great day to begin or continue furthering the healing process,’ added Vander.
The real estate agent has two children – son Aiden, three, and daughter Elle, two, with husband David Miller.
Her loves: She has spoken in the past about her fertility struggles, revealing she had two miscarriages before welcoming son Aiden in April 2019 and daughter Elle Madison in May 2020 and announcing their third pregnancy in July
Her co-stars shared reactions.
Christine Quinn said, ‘Sending you all the love my angel ❤️.’ And Davina Potratz shared, ‘I love you.’
Vander revealed in November that she had heartbreakingly lost her third child at 38 weeks, describing it as ‘the hardest day of her life’.
And amid her comments on the season five reunion, Maya also told how she struggled to watch the latest show as she was 22 weeks pregnant at the time of filming.
So sad: Vander [L] opened up about her devastating stillbirth and hopes for another child in the future during Selling Sunset’s much-anticipated reunion episode in May
Joining her fellow realtors in the studio, Maya touched on her tragic loss, detailing how her child died in a ‘freak accident’ following an occurrence of umbilical cord compression.
She also thanked her co-stars and her family for their support, before opening up on her hopes to someday welcome another child as she noted it may help with ‘healing’.
Maya explained: ‘It’s been four and a half months and time helps. I want to say thanks to each and every one of you, whenever s ** t hits the fan, everyone was so kind here.
‘Life happens, we’re filming reality, we don’t know how things will happen. I was 38 weeks, and it was a freak accident. ‘
Tragic: The realtor revealed in November that she had heartbreakingly lost her third child at 38 weeks, describing it as ‘the hardest day of her life’ [pictured with husband David Miller and children Aiden and Elle]
Giving an insight into the baby’s cause of death, she added: ‘We just got the autopsy back and it was just a bad accident with the cord. Mixed with some swallowed placenta.
‘But I’m doing much better and I have my husband he’s amazing, my kids are great; they keep me going, work and I’m busy. I don’t have time to sit and cry all day long, I have my moments, that’s part of grief, and just take this opportunity to raise voice for stillbirth and pregnancy loss.
The star then looked to the future as she added: ‘I think part of healing is getting pregnant again, I hope I will, we’ll see.’
Meanwhile, in a new interview, Maya opened up on how difficult it was to watch back the show – which was filmed last year – in which she was pregnant.
Maya told Metro.co.uk: ‘I was 22 weeks pregnant [during filming] and then I stopped filming because they tell you don’t travel and to take it easy. At 38 weeks pregnant, I lost the baby, I lost my son. ‘
She continued: ‘Then I had to watch the show. And I’m very much pregnant there and I don’t have the baby. It wasn’t as easy to watch.
So tough: ‘; Then I had to watch the show. And I’m very much pregnant there and I don’t have the baby. It wasn’t as easy to watch ‘ [Pictured with her husband as she announced her pregnancy]
‘I wasn’t sitting there sobbing with tears, I just kind of sat and watched the whole season as a whole, not focusing on just me being pregnant. Was it easy? No, but I watched it and managed to survive. ‘
The beauty went on to add that she is still ‘carrying the trauma’ from her loss, but had ‘amazing’ support from the Selling Sunset cast and producers.
The reality star admitted she had ‘the hardest day of her life’ when she tragically lost her third child earlier in November.
In her social media post announcing the tragic loss, Maya posted an image of a memory box given to her in hospital alongside the heartbreaking caption.
She has spoken in the past about her fertility struggles, revealing she had two miscarriages before welcoming son Aiden in April 2019 and daughter Elle Madison in May 2020 and announcing their third pregnancy in July.
Sad: In her social media post announcing the tragic loss, Maya posted an image of a memory box given to her in hospital alongside the heartbreaking caption
In her heartbreaking Instagram post, Maya penned: ‘Yesterday was the hardest day of my life.
‘I had a still birth at 38 weeks. I always heard of it but never imagined I’ll be part of the statistics…
‘Instead of delivering a baby, I get to go home with a memory box… I don’t wish this on anyone. What was a regular weekly checkup turned into a nightmare that I never imagine will happen to me…
‘Given I share my pregnancies in the show I knew I’ll have to post this and avoid’ when is your due date ‘question. You will always be in our heart Mason Miller ‘.
WHAT IS A STILLBIRTH?
A stillbirth occurs when a baby is born dead after 24 weeks of pregnancy.
If a baby dies before 24 weeks of pregnancy, it is known as a miscarriage.
Not all stillbirths can be prevented, however, not smoking or drinking, as well as not sleeping on your back and attending all antenatal appointments can reduce the risk.
What are the signs?
Signs may include the baby not moving as much as normal.
Pregnant women should contact their doctor immediately if they notice a difference to their baby’s movement.
What are the causes?
Stillbirths do not always have an obvious cause but may occur due to complications with the placenta or a birth defect.
They are also more likely to occur if women suffer from high blood pressure, diabetes or an infection that affects the baby, such as flu.
Stillbirths are more likely to occur if women are having twins or multiple pregnancies, are overweight, smoke, are over 35 or have a pre-existing condition, such as epilepsy.
What happens after a stillbirth?
If a baby has died, women may wait for their labor to start naturally or they may be induced if their health is at risk.
Bereavement support groups are available to parents who have suffered stillbirths.
Some find it helpful to name their baby or take pictures with them.
Source: NHS Choices
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